“Darling, I know you have been up since 4 this morning but would you take the rubbish out, mend the fence and after dinner – do the dishes.
Don’t forget I want you in tip top condition, so we will go for a 45 minute run. And then I want you to make sweat passionate love to me.
Umm; I think that’s about all, but I will let you know if anything else comes up”.
The above statement is ridiculous. Do you feel obligated to say, ‘yes’ when people make a request? Is it possible that you are asking too much of yourselves when attempting to please everyone around you?
If the answer is yes, then rub your hands together and roll up your sleeves. Here is an area where you need to focus your attention on your own behaviour. The hard work is just about to begin.
The practice of being assertive and saying, ‘no’ is about to begin. We will also look at asking for your own needs to be fulfilled. Identifying these areas is the easy part. Putting this into action is where it gets a little murky.