If time is precious then shouldn’t we be having conversations that encourage growth? Sharing experiences that are inclined to motivate. You possess the right skills to empower people. May as well put them to good use.
There should be little room for gossip or circulating in negative banter. This has no value. In fact the truth will have most naysayers backing away slowly. Speak louder, have authority in your voice, drown at any doubters.
While they’re removing themselves to a safe listening distance, hold firm. As time goes on people recognise what you stand for.
This is working in the flow of an individual’s thoughts and ideas. Stay on their topic of choice. Ask questions and show interest.
Don’t be in a hurry to have your say. Listen and enjoy others holding the floor. When you’re in empowering mode you’re going with the mood, attitude and behaviour of another.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. – Stephen R. Covey
When the times right, share your observations. Emphasis their good qualities. Underlining what they do and how you’re fond of these particular abilities.
Assess their feedback. Their response is an indicator of whether you should continue. You’re not seeking approval or agreeance. You’re looking for permission to proceed.
Some people won’t want your help or guidance. Yet most individuals love to hear what you see in them. Especially if it’s a ‘feel good’ quality. Empower people, highlight their best assets. This will rev up the conversation and get them thinking.Empower people, highlight their best assets.This will rev up the conversation and get them thinking. Click To Tweet
A new relationship.
Think about the last time you meet a new friend or began an intimate relationship. Basking in the happiness of being together. Every now and again you became aware of some habit that could send you around the bend.
There’s no point concentrating on that. You remain focused on enjoying the person. There will always be times for the serious talks.
Then you hit one of those days. Your mood is described as a weather report. The prediction is overcast with dark clouds forming. Thunder storms are on their way.
On these days, those annoyances are pronounced, lingering in your mind. They were there all along. You saw them and let them go.
Now all your attention and focus is on the negative. Creating a monster out of a person, where previously you were lapping up every moment with them.
When we empower others we work with the strengths of their character. Getting the best out of people by enhancing their positive qualities. We don’t have to address those traits that are annoying to us.
Allowing the person to be exactly who they are. Not creating expectation. Don’t make others have to live up to what you want from them. They’ll never get it right.
How to get you point across.
You’re utilising a powerful tool when you empower people. It’s not every day someone talks to another with the potential to enable change.
Instead of saying ‘YOU’, base your information around story telling. Add an antidote to the conversation so that your message is clear.
- Get your point across by saying, ‘when a situation like that happens to me I…’
- The moral of the story is…
It’s not saying, ‘I am the teacher, you’re the student. Listen up because you’re doing life wrong’. It’s passing over information. Allowing the other person to absorb what you’ve said. Giving them a right to choose their own way.
There is approximately a twenty minute window where you get to motivate and inspire. This small time frame is where you make people excited by who they are.
Allowing people to lap up what you’ve just shared. This can go anywhere.
- People may get a head swell. Feeling ten feet tall.
- They may get introspective about it.
- They may listen to the information and not react at all.
- You may have ignited a fire that has the potential to change their world.
- Individuals remember the conversation. Instead of doing something with it, they use it as a mantra without the action.
They will interpret the information and do with it as they please. Don’t have expectations of what they should do with your feedback.
Empower people, it’s a skill worth getting better at.
We can be facilitators of change. All you do is highlight qualities that you find special in a person. This will get people enthused by what you’ve said.We can be facilitators of change. All you do is highlight qualities that you find special in a person. @thedigger0 Click To Tweet
You could find that they’re motivated. But will the momentum stay alive? After a day or two that stirring conversation seems to be forgotten. Were you thinking one talk would change their world?
If you inspired once, you can do it again. This time when they get fired up, ask them if they will do anything about it? Zero in on the subject and investigate it with them.
When you empower people you get to know them better. Before long you will be able to work out if they are: –
- action orientated?
- chatters and dreamers rather than do-ers?
Once you’ve establish their level of ‘follow through’ you can work in this area.
There is no right or wrong. You’re nothing more than the bearer of information, working on positive qualities. Generally very satisfying to the listener.
You can start learning different personality types by what others say and do. Or by what they say and don’t do.
You’re like a mental brain spa. People come to find relief and relax. Feel good about themselves.Be like a mental brain spa. People come to find relief and relax. Feel good about themselves. Click To Tweet
There’s a time and place for this tool to be used. You don’t focus in on someone at a party with others around. As a quality unfolds an individual may feel vulnerable and talk about their doubts on the subject.
People love to feel good. It’s not a tool that you abuse. This energy generates light and puts positivity into the world. It creates a safe place for others to shine. To really lap up and embrace a quality that they may not have even noticed. You allow others to blossom.
None of this is something you have to do. It’s an option. You’re not obligated to indulge others. This is nothing more than a conversation with a difference. Can you imagine all you have to do is be genuine? Divulging what you appreciate in another. You have the potential to impact their lives?
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. – Leo Buscaglia
To empower people – the benefits of this tool.
Don’t do it for the accolades. An enabler of change is rewarded more so than recognised. There will be constant feedback. You witness a person excited by what you’ve shared. They begin action or float on your observations like a dream. Each time you do it you get better at putting light in a place that could have been just another conversation.
It’s easy making people feel wonderful about themselves. In return it makes you feel good that you spent a small amount of time highlighting a quality that you admire. You sharpen up your observation, communication, motivation skills when enabling others to shine.
Never can harm be done when you empower people with this method. This is an important gift. It’s Aladdin’s treasure. A person going about their everyday business. You pop in for a chat and they’re made to feel alive and special.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. – Maya Angelou
You empower people by sharing information on the qualities you admire in them. It’s not the normal everyday conversation. You’re putting everyone’s time to good use. Whilst honing in your observation skills.
You get a kick out of seeing people come alive with excitement. It’s not your duty to do this. You’re not under any obligation. However doing something selfless brings its own rewards.
Wait for the magic moment. An opportunity arises and it’s clear it’s the right time to utilise your observations skills. When you are the facilitator of change, a do good-er for self-improvement, the skys open up, the traffic stops, the bird’s chirps cease to be heard. It’s time to empower people and share what you think makes them shine.
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